For a long time, I thought the problem was motivation.

If I could just feel like it…
If I could just get that one good day, that clean break, that fresh start…
Then I’d finally be consistent.

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But here’s what I’ve learned:
Motivation is a feeling.
Accountability is a force.

When you’re on your own, it’s easy to bail.
But when someone’s watching—even quietly—you show up differently.

You don’t have to fake it.
You just have to not ghost yourself.

The Mental Health Stack This Week

Habit to Start:
→ The “Check-In Habit”
Text a friend once a day with one sentence about how you’re really doing.
Not “I’m good.”
More like:

“Didn’t want to get out of bed, but I did.”
“Kind of numb today. No real reason.”
“Small win: I actually ate lunch.”

It’s simple. And it works. Because real accountability starts with honesty.

Accountability is a system.
It’s the invisible scaffolding that holds you up when your willpower runs out.

Resource:
→ HabitShare – Want to make a habit stick? Let someone see it. This app lets you track habits and quietly share your progress with a friend. Free, simple, and powerful. (No sponsorship here — just someone who has been using this app for 237 days to track and improve my habits)

This Week’s Challenge:
Pick one person.
Pick one habit.
Check in every day this week.

That’s it.

You don’t need more motivation.
You just need someone who’s got your back.

Text me or reply to this email if you want to be HabitShare buddies—I’ll be your accountability partner.

P.S. Today at 11 am, I’m co-hosting a special LinkedIn Live with Leslie—another mental health advocate who, like me, lost her son Austin to suicide.

We’ll talk about men’s mental health, suicide prevention, and how sharing our stories on LinkedIn helped us find each other.
If you’ve ever felt alone in your struggles, or if you care about someone who’s struggling—you should be there.

📍 Click here to RSVP & join

Let’s keep building a world where guys don’t suffer in silence.